Are you addicted to the adrenaline of creating events?
Post-event Blues, Yes This is a Thing!
The 'rush' of adrenaline when you are executing an event can be so powerful that some will become addicted to it. I am that person...
The roller-coaster nature of events can create an addictive cycle of highs and lows and in order to maintain the pattern, things have to continue to escalate, your need to create events will become greater, you will work longer hours, travel more, you will crave your next event, it's a relationship that is hard to leave because the highs are so intense you need more and more in order to get that hit, so much so that we often feel addicted to it.
All I've known for such a long period of time came to an abrupt end 160 days ago (doesn't sound long but it sure doe's feel like it) It's been 160 days since I last touched an event, for such a long period of time this was my way of living, I had become entirely revolved around this one mission, to create events! When we experience great intensity with something, we form a bond, (even when it's a potentially unhealthy bond) it strengthens every time it's present, such as successfully executing events, constantly having a conveyor belt of events moving through the stages, attending them, creating them, just being a part of them, so following the close of an event/s it is common to feel emptiness. It is something so very common in the entertainment, hospitality and events industry it even has a name; Post-Adrenaline Blues. “Typically, the condition starts off with moderate to severe obsessive tears being shed, a sudden increase in presence on social networking sites…and the usual overreactions to having a sudden increase in free time on one’s hands: cleaning the house, adopting a cat to adapt to your new lonely lifestyle without your cast, and potentially picking up new hobbies, such as scrapbooking or knitting to help pass the time,” joked #BrookeLynnTousley. The post-events blues are renown for striking when a vigorous working regime ends suddenly, with the extended periods of high-energy, and high-emotions, these endings create changes to the nervous system and adrenaline levels, so when you step away from an environment that you've been a part of for a long period, it can almost feel like withdrawals and the crux of PAB is very prominent when a lifestyle/work routine drastically changes. A typical response after an event has concluded is "What am I going to do after this?" this can be the result of not knowing what to do once the big event/s have concluded you may have nothing planned, and with so much hype created and all your attention and focus being directed at this goal everything you do after can seem very anti-climatic, slowly introducing a dull, empty feeling - I can't lie I have felt it many a time, it's tough, the wave of emotions is like detoxing from your favorite guilty pleasure. So, what am I going to do after this? At the close of an event, your focus and daily schedule instantly becomes different, the hours that had been getting longer come to a halt, the amount you have been pushing yourself each day suddenly stops. You love your job and can not think of doing anything else, you created another success, everyone was extremely happy, but you still can’t seem to shake the feeling of emptiness, and you can’t shake feeling low, sometimes even feeling alone after you have said goodbye to a crew you have been working, and liaising with for many months But what is important to note is that post-event blues are not permanent, Temporarily your life has changed and there are ways to help you overcome this feeling.
Battling and minimizing Post-Event Depression:
#1 - Get yourself organised - Wrap up your event, make those final calls, take those final meetings, make a celebration of it with your team, and all the fabulous people you have worked with to execute yet another event success. Set new goals, this will add a fresh perspective for what you want to achieve moving forward, and enjoy the process that comes of preparing for your next event, and that includes a little bit of downtime in between.
#2 - It is so important to relax & recover - Put yourself first, and give yourself the time to kick back and relax, recovery is essential after those long, stressful hours you've worked. Whatever it is that makes you feel zen, do it, and do it without shame be selfish to your needs right now, for me its some solid long walks, and a trip to the spa for a facial and massage #treatyoself #3 - Take time to reconnect - Whether it's family or friends who are family, they probably haven't heard from you in a while, this is a great time to grab a drink (or two?!) enjoy time with your nearest and dearest. They may not understand why you are feeling like you are, talk with them, and share your thoughts this will help them to understand for any future post-event blues that may occur!
#4 - My favorite one rediscover yourself - All the things that you enjoy that took a backseat whilst you are ruling the world of events, you can get back to doing them, yoga, meditation, gardening, walking the dog, running, knitting whatever it is, do it for you and no one else, you have worked hard and deserve this time! Sometimes the right thing to do is to actually step away for a bit to focus on your inner self and become one with yourself outside of events.
I absolutely love planning events, it is my life and during this crazy time we are living in I am missing the wonderful world of events terribly and am living in post-event blues for 160 days and counting, if you too are missing it as much as I am, and feeling a little out of sorts it is OK to say you are not OK. If you need to talk I do understand. Each day I remind myself that the next meeting or event I organise will be filled with even more connections, bonds, and experiences. Although the job is stressful and we are in a weird time with events I try to focus on the positive parts and daily remember to take care of myself, because before we know it we will back creating again.
"Without rain, there would be no rainbows." -Hawaiian Proverb